Having sex with someone new for the first time can be a little underwhelming. Let's face it, it can be awkward AF. But that doesn't mean that you'll always have awkward sex with that person, it just means you're still figuring each other out. And staying within your comfort zone can help with that. It doesn't mean you can't have exciting, passionate sex, but it may mean that you don't want to be balancing on one foot with your ankle behind their ear right off the bat.
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Skip navigation! Story from Sex. When did you last try a new sex position? Whether or not you're in a relationship , it's all too easy to fall back on a handful of tried-and-tested moves and forget the delicious variety available to you and your partner. That's where Clare Cavanah and Rachel Venning come in. They're not only the founders of sex toy boutique and educational hub Babeland , they're the authors of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. With insight into everything from BDSM to birth control, Moregasm is an expert yet relatable roadmap to your best-ever sex life. The book's inclusive, deftly illustrated guides to manual, oral, vaginal, and anal sex positions are our favorite part. We're thrilled to share them with you here, beginning with Cavanah and Venning's step-by-step suggestions for vaginal sex and then adding ideas for other forms of play each month.
3. Doggy Style
Most couples aren't very adventurous in the bedroom. When it comes time to get down in between the sheets, few are bold enough to venture away from traditional standbys like missionary , cowgirl , spooning , doggy style. It doesn't have to be this way. There are plenty of inventive sex positions that can result in better orgasms for you and your partner, and they don't all involve contorting your body into a pretzel. We have a few suggestions—50 of them, to be exact. We know 50 is a lot, but don't be intimidated. Treat this list like a menu. Not every position is going to work for every couple. Just because the Wheelbarrow or Heir to the Throne aren't blowing your minds doesn't mean Gift Wrapped won't do the trick.
Lazy sex syndrome is definitely a real thing—and for good reason. In other words: Why reinvent the so-called wheel when you can settle into the oh-so-comfortable spoon position, or revert to the position that always, unfailingly gets you off? First of all, you never know where a different-than-normal sex position might lead—and while an orgasm might be one of the lucky results of trying something new, it could also simply be a tantalizing way to build things up; a strategy to keep things fresh with your partner; or an excuse to appreciate all the awesome things our bodies can do. And some are minor twists on classics that are just a good reminder to try every so often.